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Sunday, November 10, 2013

Crystal Ball Of Single Life at 50+






My crystal ball lied to me or had me confused with another person. What I saw was not being single and living alone at 50+ years old.  Oh no, I will be living in New York, married to Trump and ……Wait, slap back to reality of this post….…

In defense of the single, divorced and going it alone crowd, it is a great way to live. Please stop trying to get us from the single to the married dept without understanding how we might feel. The  main advantage is “freedom” but the downside, people can’t always prepare for it. Being single in this decade of life arrives by divorce, death, or choice. These are the only three things to thank or blame.

The mentality is something you either accept or change .Moving yourself out of being single as quickly  possible. If you stay in alone land long, your outlook on life is different. You find peace in simple things. Strange how you can become content on a Friday and Saturday night to be alone in bed with a book. You realize that one of the best ways to be happy is to find peace in yourself and do what you love. If someone would have told me years ago my life would be prideful to a nun at a convent, I would have cried. Now, I am quite happy with it. In the end, it is all relative to perception.

Being alone expands your vision of life and gives you time to think. Career options are much more open and you can break through the glass ceiling easier. I know all the book stores, chain restaurant menus, and Starbucks locations across the USA. This came about by traveling to and living in more cities than a vagabond with a backpack. One of the perks and downfalls of a full time travel position. Do you get to see more than the 9-5 crowd? Yes, but you do it with different eyes.

We find happiness in the unexpected and trying new things. What you never thought would make you smile; now bring light to a dark day. For me, cooking has become a passion, Cooking for one has made me create new recipes and buy a few food domains online. Normally there's not much in the fridge left over, and I know where all my cookbooks are stacked.

 Music enjoyment expands with growing old alone. Music beings back memories and ghosts of eras gone by. The Stones are still rolling (Keith Richards Sober), the Eagles flying high and Bob Marley on teen 2013 T- Shirts. This is how many years later? Wait don’t answer that!

Choices for single people are always there. Let’s see…. I might write books, travel, and maybe move into a intentional community(hippie commune updated). Yes, there is an original one in Virginia and it still thriving. Maybe they need a new member ……


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